How to realign with your purpose

As a new year begins, many of us start reflecting on what we want to change or finally release. But what if letting go isn’t about fixing yourself or doing more? What if it’s about gently loosening your grip on what has quietly been weighing you down? Letting go of the things that don't support you! For many high-achieving Black women, the weight isn’t always obvious. It can look like unmet expectations, unspoken obligations, or roles we’ve outgrown but still feel responsible

What if this year didn’t begin with urgency or the endless to-do lists that often come with resolutions and goals, but with an honest look at how you’ve been spending your time, and what it’s been costing you?   How are you entering 2026? As I’ve gotten older, time has come into sharper focus. It no longer feels like something to fill or manage, but something to value and protect. Time is a precious commodity, and how we spend it shapes our well-being, our relationships, and

The end of the year has a way of telling the truth. Not always loudly. Not always dramatically. But honestly. Holding disappointment can coexist with growth. And joy doesn’t have to be forced to be real. For many women, what surfaces isn’t grief, it’s disappointment . Disappointment that things didn’t turn out the way you hoped. That the effort didn’t match the outcome. That you showed up, stayed faithful, did the work… and still feel let down. And as the year closes, you ma

Christmas didn’t arrive in a calm season, it arrived in the middle of real life. Light didn’t wait for calm. No room. No certainty. No polished plan. And yet, light came anyway. The first Christmas was shaped by uncertainty. Mary carried a miracle without comfort or clarity. Joseph held responsibility while navigating fear and the unknown. And the announcement of this world-changing joy didn’t go to those at the center of power, it came to shepherds on the outskirts, doing or

No one tells you how unsettling it can feel when joy shows up after loss or how to let it in without guilt. Joy after grief doesn’t return with fireworks. It slips in quietly, often alongside fear, uncertainty, and the question: Is this allowed? “Joy is possible, even if it starts out quiet.” For many women I work with, grief doesn’t just come with sadness. It comes with fear. Fear of smiling too soon.  Fear of laughing again.  Fear that joy somehow means you’ve forgotten, mo

(Week 2 December Blog — ROOTED: Disrupt Edition) If there’s one thing I know about many Black women, especially high-achieving Black women, it’s this: We don’t just grieve the moment something is lost. We grieve the stories we’ve been carrying about what that loss should  mean. And most of the time? Those stories didn’t come from us. They came from our families, our culture, our churches, our expectations, and the invisible roles we learned to perform long before we ever kne

December can be a tender month. Something about the shorter days, the stillness, the rituals, the remembering… it all brings emotions to the surface in ways we didn’t always ask for. While the world leans heavily into celebration, many of us find ourselves sitting with a quieter, more complicated mix of feelings. Holiday grief has a way of rising just when the rest of the world seems most insistent on cheer. And yet, December can also hold small sparks of joy — soft moments t

“I don’t get it,”  Maya shared.  “I want closeness… but the moment someone  actually tries to love me, I shut down.” She isn’t being dramatic or inconsistent—she’s experiencing the classic  push-pull cycle  of disorganized attachment. This quick back-and-forth, leaning in, then pulling away isn’t personality-driven. It’s nervous-system driven. And it's far more common than most women realize, especially high-preforming Black women carrying chronic stress and trauma historie

Have you ever felt alone in a crowded room, steady on the outside but shut down on the inside? For many of us, hyper independence  became armor, a way to stay safe, productive, and untouched. But if that strength keeps you distant from what you actually want i.e., love, support, and rest it might be protection that’s costing you connection. If this resonates, you are not broken. You are brilliant and adaptive. And you can learn a new way. When the world teaches you to be stro

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As October closes, Dr. Tina Armstrong reflects on the messy middle—sharing how faith, communication, and simple routines bring calm. Discover takeaways, FAQs, and a preview of November’s Exercise pillar.

In the midst of life's chaos, finding peace by talking with others in open dialogue  can be a powerful tool for relief. Honest conversation has a way of calming the mind and soothing the soul, reminding us that we're not alone in our struggles. Talking with Friends, reminds us who we are. When we engage in meaningful talking , we open ourselves up to new perspectives and understanding. This exchange can be a source of comfort, helping us navigate the challenges that come our

The words we choose have the power to either uplift or undermine our mental state. Practicing mindfulness in our daily conversations can significantly influence our Mental Wellness. Faith and psychology agree: “Life and death are in the power of the tongue.” Your words are seeds that grow into habits, mindset, and peace.

Have you ever been stuck in that messy middle? Not who you used to be. Not yet who you’re becoming. Just… here. For many high-achieving...

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