(Week 2 December Blog — ROOTED: Disrupt Edition) If there’s one thing I know about many Black women, especially high-achieving Black women, it’s this: We don’t just grieve the moment something is lost. We grieve the stories we’ve been carrying about what that loss should  mean. And most of the time? Those stories didn’t come from us. They came from our families, our culture, our churches, our expectations, and the invisible roles we learned to perform long before we ever knew the weight of...

December can be a tender month. Something about the shorter days, the stillness, the rituals, the remembering… it all brings emotions to the surface in ways we didn’t always ask for. While the world leans heavily into celebration, many of us find ourselves sitting with a quieter, more complicated mix of feelings. Holiday grief has a way of rising just when the rest of the world seems most insistent on cheer. And yet, December can also hold small sparks of joy — soft moments that warm us even...

“I don’t get it,”  Maya shared.  “I want closeness… but the moment someone  actually tries to love me, I shut down.” She isn’t being dramatic or inconsistent—she’s experiencing the classic  push-pull cycle  of disorganized attachment. This quick back-and-forth, leaning in, then pulling away isn’t personality-driven. It’s nervous-system driven. And it's far more common than most women realize, especially high-preforming Black women carrying chronic stress and trauma histories. Disorganized...